Many people I know believe in this idea of love at first sight. For me, I just don’t buy it. Now, I am not saying that you can’t love the way a person looks at first sight. In that case wouldn’t we all share love at first sight with Ryan Reynolds? I am also not saying that there isn’t such a thing as lust at first sight. I am sure most of us have had first dates where we go home with our hearts pounding out of our chests and we think “Game over. I’ve met my soulmate. He paid for dinner AND he’s sexy!” All I am trying to say is that sometimes no matter how strong the feeling, no matter how sure you think you are, if you haven’t ever been on a ‘spur-of-the-moment’ last minute vacation across the country with this person, there’s no way you’ll ever know. 

6 days and 5 hotel rooms later was all it took for me to go from “Love at first sight” to “Seriously? Why the f*** do you need to unpack and assemble all your sh*t in the hotel drawers for?!” To give this situation some personal context, yes. Yes I did take a spontaneous last minute trip to Colorado and Southern Utah with my family this past week. Everything was sudden and the weather was going to be perfect where we were headed. I had about fifteen minutes to pack and decide if I should invite my new boyfriend who I had consecutively spent the past 21 days with along on this impetuous 19 hour road trip. Well I figured what’s 6 more? Little did I know the first new thing I’d learn about him would be before the road trip even began. He was a slow packer. 

To put it simply, things got a bit ‘Rocky’ in the Rocky mountains. Mr. Perfect was no longer perfect in my eyes and I highly doubt brushing my teeth with toothpaste on my finger and reworn jeans for three days in a row had any saving on my perfect streak. They say love can move mountains but it surely wasn’t strong enough to move his hand to the check after our ribeye dinner in Vail. Though, despite the chaos, I had an epiphany. Maybe love at first sight is a real thing. If people stopped treating monogamy as an “all or nothing” situation there can be multiple love at first sights. With the same person. I don’t need to live with you to stay loyal to you. In fact, I’d rather you handle your zit cream before you pick me up for our ribeye dinner. And until the day comes where he comes home from his 9-5 and sees you on the couch with no makeup, messy bun, and an oversized ketchup stained t-shirt and loves the way you look just as much as that night in your little black dress, then you can travel across the country on spontaneous road trips together. 

(Ps hi C if you’re reading this I thought it was funny and you know I love you <3)