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Dear Abby: I won’t help husband with baby he fathered in adulterous affairAbigail Van Burenon August 4, 2021 at 11:00 am

DEAR ABBY: My husband of three years informed me that he’d had a brief affair and fathered a baby. We worked through it, and I decided to stay in the marriage. The mother of the child is in a new relationship.

I am 10 years older than my husband and have grown kids. I am not interested in raising any more. I have friends, hobbies, outdoor sports and activities that I enjoy in my free time, and I’m not giving them up. (My husband enjoys these activities, too.)

He told me he plans to have visitation with the baby in our home every other week. I have no objection. In fact, I see it as a perfect opportunity to go on some out-of-towners with my girlfriends. (We plan to yuk it up and enjoy some spa services.)

Abby, my husband hasn’t a clue what to do. He has never even changed a diaper. I told him he will have to learn quickly or adjust his visitation plans because I am not helping him with his baby. I worked hard while I raised my kids and made all the sacrifices necessary. We have close relationships as adults. We live nearby, and they sometimes accompany me on my adventures.

When they have kids of their own, I plan to be an involved grandparent, but I would never expect my husband to give up his weekends to wipe their noses. (He would refuse, by the way. I know this because he has said so.) His stance on stepparenting is different now because it involves a baby. I’m wondering if I should stay in the marriage. — TOOK CARE OF MY OWN

DEAR TOOK CARE: That’s a good question. It’s one you might discuss with an attorney to determine what the result will be financially if you exit the marriage. Do nothing in haste. However, once you have done that, if you are unwilling to disrupt your plans and help your husband with a responsibility that should be solely his, tell him you don’t plan to spend weekends babysitting the result of his careless, adulterous affair.

DEAR ABBY: My family will be expecting me to attend the funeral of a relative who, as few of them know, was an abusive monster. I want to support the people I love, especially the abuser’s niece, who is very close to me. However, I don’t want to be a hypocrite. I can’t imagine sitting through the service, listening to speeches about what a “wonderful” man he was and accepting condolences. My absence will undoubtedly generate comments and questions. I have spent many years dealing with the after-effects of his abuse. How should I handle this? — SURVIVOR IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR SURVIVOR: A funeral service may be a way to honor the deceased, but it is also intended to comfort and support the grieving relatives. A way to manage this would be to sit in the back of the room, quietly get up to “visit the bathroom” for most of the eulogizing and return as they are wheeling the “dearly departed” out so you can support the grieving niece by showing her you were there.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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Dear Abby: I won’t help husband with baby he fathered in adulterous affairAbigail Van Burenon August 4, 2021 at 11:00 am Read More »

Chicago Bulls: Here is what the future could look like for Lauri MarkkanenRyan Tayloron August 4, 2021 at 11:00 am

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Chicago Bulls: Here is what the future could look like for Lauri MarkkanenRyan Tayloron August 4, 2021 at 11:00 am Read More »

2 killed, 11 wounded, in shootings Tuesday in ChicagoSun-Times Wireon August 4, 2021 at 9:56 am

Two people were killed, and eleven others were wounded in shootings Tuesday in Chicago, including a 30-year-old man who was fatally shot in Gresham on the South Side.

The man was standing on a corner about 3:30 p.m. in the 7500 block of South Damen Avenue when a white-colored Kia approached and someone inside fired shots, Chicago police said. He suffered a gunshot wound to the left side of the body and was transported to Christ Medical Center in Oak Lawn, where he was pronounced dead. He has not yet been identified.

Hours prior, a man was fatally shot in East Garfield Park. The 21-year-old was in a parking lot about 11:46 a.m. in the 3300 block of West Warren Boulevard when someone fired shots from a gray sedan, police said. The man was struck multiple times and taken to Stroger Hospital, where he was pronounced dead. He hasn’t been identified.

In non-fatal shootings, a 39-year-old man was shot in Brighton Park on the Southwest Side. He was driving about 11:10 p.m., in the 4400 block of South Richmond Street, when a male fired shots at him, police said. The man was struck in the back and drove to Christ Medical Center in Oak Lawn. He is in fair condition.

About an hour prior, three people were wounded in a shooting in Humboldt Park on the Northwest Side. About 10:30 p.m., they were outside at a large gathering in the 3700 block of West Chicago Avenue, when three males fired shots at them, police said. A 34-year-old man was struck in the arm and taken to Mount Sinai Hospital for treatment. He is in good condition. A 53-year-old woman was struck twice in the leg, and a 68-year-old woman was struck in the stomach and leg. They were taken to Stroger Hospital, where they are also in good condition.

An 81-year-old man was critically wounded in a shooting Tuesday night in Hermosa on the West Side. Just before 7 p.m., the man was standing on the street in the 1700 block of North Tripp Avenue when someone shot him in the back, police said. He was transported to Mount Sinai Hospital initially in critical condition, Chicago fire officials said, but was later stabilized.

A 16-year-old boy was wounded in a shooting Tuesday afternoon in Englewood on the South Side. The teen was walking down the street about 4:30 p.m. in the 7000 block of South Union Avenue when he heard shots and felt pain, police said. He was struck in the abdomen and transported to the University of Chicago Medical Center in good condition.

A 16-year-old boy was shot Tuesday morning in East Garfield Park on the West Side. The teen was walking home around 4:10 a.m. in the 300 block of South Albany Avenue when someone opened fire from a dark-colored Honda sedan, police said. He was struck once in the leg and was taken to Mount Sinai Hospital, where his condition was stabilized.

Four others were wounded in shootings citywide.

Two people were killed, and nine others were wounded in shootings Monday in Chicago.

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Analyzing the highs and lows of Bears training campPatrick Finleyon August 4, 2021 at 10:00 am

After a week of training camp, the Sun-Times’ Patrick Finley breaks down what he’s seen:

Justin Fields has looked…

Tantalizing. His physical tools — from his arm strength to deep ball to 4.4-second 40-yard dash speed — are unlike that of any Bears quarterback prospect in franchise history. Now he needs to harness them. We’ve seen receivers shake their heads when he rifles a fastball on a short cross. He’ll learn not to do that.

But he’s not ready yet because…

Andy Dalton has looked like the most consistent quarterback Matt Nagy has ever coached in Chicago. That’s not to say he’s headed for stardom, or even that he’ll even be the starter on Thanksgiving. But he’s brought stability to a franchise that desperately needs it at the position, if only to buy Fields more time to incubate.

What is the best development for the Bears so far?

Their training camp problems are run-of-the-mill compared to the Packers starting camp with Aaron Rodgers’ airing of grievances and the Vikings putting three quarterbacks on the reserve/COVID-19 list while boasting, reportedly, the worst vaccination rate in the NFL

What’s the worst?

Beside the four players they put on the reserve/COVID-19 test Tuesday? The Bears have five players on their roster who have made the Pro Bowl while wearing the wishbone “C.” Two have yet to play a snap in camp: running back Tarik Cohen, who’s recovering from knee surgery, and safety Eddie Jackson, who hurt his hamstring while training.

Which under-the-radar player has caught your eye?

The last time Damien Williams played in a game, he should have been named Super Bowl MVP. After a year off, he doesn’t seem to have lost a step. With Cohen still out, Williams has seized his opportunity to be a mismatch nightmare in the pass game.

What’s the shakiest part of the Bears’ plan for this season?

Trusting that two of the three of Desmond Trufant, Duke Shelley and Kindle Vildor can handle cornerback duties opposite Jaylon Johnson and in the slot. Trufant turns 31 next month and has been healthy for 15 of a possible 32 games the last two years. Still, general manager Ryan Pace said the Bears still feel he “has the stickiness to play man coverage.” We guess Pace will miss Kyle Fuller soon.

Which newcomer has been the most impressive?

First-year coordinator Sean Desai — who is hardly new to Halas Hall, but we’ll count him anyway — has brought an energy to the defense that it lacked under Chuck Pagano. The “Takeaway Bucket” — a laundry bin into which defenders dunk footballs after fumbles and interceptions — is hokey but sends the right message. After leading the NFL in takeaways in 2018, the Bears have finished in the bottom third the last two years.

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Man fatally shot after argument in Lawndale: policeJermaine Nolenon August 4, 2021 at 8:36 am

A 29-year-old man was fatally shot Tuesday after getting into an argument in Lawndale on the West Side.

About 10:20 p.m., he was sitting inside his vehicle in the 2800 block of West Polk Street, when a male he had been arguing with walked up to him and fired shots, Chicago police said.

The man was struck in the head, chest, shoulder, and arm, police said. He was rushed to Mt. Sinai Hospital, where he was pronounced dead.

The man has not yet been identified.

Area Four detectives are investigating.

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3 wounded in shooting in Humboldt ParkSun-Times Wireon August 4, 2021 at 6:14 am

Three people were wounded in a shooting Tuesday in Humboldt Park on the Northwest Side.

About 10:30 p.m., they were outside at a large gathering in the 3700 block of West Chicago Avenue, when three males fired shots at them, Chicago police said.

A 34-year-old man was struck in the arm and taken to Mount Sinai Hospital for treatment, police said. He is in good condition.

A 53-year-old woman was struck twice in the leg and a 68-year-old woman was struck in the stomach and leg, police said. They were taken to Stroger Hospital, where they are also in good condition.

Area Four detectives are investigating.

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Zach Davies gets shelled in Cubs’ loss to the RockiesRussell Dorseyon August 4, 2021 at 3:58 am

DENVER — Right-hander Zach Davies didn’t have a warm welcome in the Mile High City, and the Rockies made it a long night for him during their 13-6 victory Tuesday against the Cubs. Davies was thought to be a player who could be moved at the trade deadline, but in his first start after the deadline, things didn’t go well.

The Rockies got to Davies in the second inning. He allowed a double, a single and a walk to load the bases with nobody out. The next batter, Elias Diaz, had the biggest swing of the inning, crushing a no-doubt grand slam to give Colorado a 4-0 lead.

The Rockies increased the lead in the fourth inning on Sam Hilliard’s three-run blast to make it 7-2. Davies allowed seven runs and six hits in four innings before being lifted for a pinch hitter.

Injury updates

Right-hander Rowan Wick (intercostal injury) has been progressing in his rehab assignment. Wick has been pitching for Triple-A Iowa and has a 9.64 ERA in five games this season.

The Cubs have been happy with Wick’s progression from his unusual injury. If things continue to go well, there’s still a chance that he can make some appearances for the Cubs this season.

“He’s still building up in his spring-training routine,” manager David Ross said. “I know his last outing was a limited pitch count. . . . I think he’ll just continue to develop and hopefully get all of his innings under him. He’ll be back as long as he stays on track.”

Things don’t appear to be close for second baseman Nico Hoerner, who went on the injured list Thursday. He is on the trip with the team but hasn’t begun any baseball activities and is still just getting daily treatment.

“It’s not season-ending,” Cubs president Jed Hoyer said. “I don’t want to give exact dates, but it won’t be a minimum stint [on the injured list].”

He said it

Hoyer on the Cubs’ plan for 2022 and beyond: “I never want to be disingenuous and say, ‘Yeah, here’s the exact plan,’ when the fact is, you can’t really lay out an exact plan when there are so many things that are uncertain in front of you. . . . This is not going to be a 2012-13 situation in any way. I think that we’re going to be looking to compete right away. But what exactly that looks like? I think that we want to make sure that the goal here is to build the next great Cubs team.

“That, to me, is the No. 1 goal I have. I don’t have any interest in just sort of patching things up and saying this is good enough. . . . The legacy of this group, ultimately, is that we changed the expectations here.”

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Watch Berkowitz & Martin discuss the issues that make Gov. Pritzker vulnerable to a current or likely new entrant in the 2022 GOP GOV Primary race, Cable/Webon August 4, 2021 at 1:35 am

Public Affairs with Jeff Berkowitz

Watch Berkowitz & Martin discuss the issues that make Gov. Pritzker vulnerable to a current or likely new entrant in the 2022 GOP GOV Primary race, Cable/Web

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White Sox rookie Andrew Vaughn is ‘far and away ahead of his years’Daryl Van Schouwenon August 4, 2021 at 12:04 am

Andrew Vaughn’s swing “is a beautiful swing,” White Sox assistant hitting coach Howie Clark says.

But it’s how Vaughn has gotten the most out of it in his rookie season, with a relatively tiny base of minor league at-bats to prepare him for the major leagues, that finds him performing among the best rookies in baseball.

“A lot of it is between the ears,” Clark said. “He’s far and away ahead of his age.”

Vaughn, who homered against left-hander Kris Bubic in the second inning in the White Sox game against the Royals Tuesday at Guaranteed Rate Field, entered with a .258/.321/.444 hitting line with 11 homers, 22 doubles and 32 RBI. He played only 55 games in the minor leagues.

The numbers aren’t staggering, but they are as solid as the swing and demeanor he brings to the park every day, more than serviceable for the 23-year-old first baseman who picked up playing left field like a new hobby. And the numbers are on the rise. In July, Vaughn was a candidate for AL Rookie of the Month after batting .308/.347/.516 with four homers, 12 RBI and an .853 OPS.

With no experience above High-A Winston-Salem, Vaughn was trusted to be the Sox designated hitter coming out of spring training. When Eloy Jimenez went down with a serious injury in March, he converted to left, another big ask, and took on major league pitching for the first time.

The learning curve on both levels was considerable, but Vaughn managed it gracefully and was a steady presence in a lineup stricken by the injury bug in the first half.

“He’s had to deal with things at this level where the [scouting] information travels fast and the opposing pitchers can execute,” Clark said. “He’s had to adjust at this level where other guys have had a level of AA and AAA. He’s been thrown into the fire. But he’s very mature hitter.”

It didn’t take long before pitchers got Vaughn chasing breaking pitches out of the strike zone. But he’s adjusting.

“You kind of figure out how guys are pitching you and if you can combat that, it’s the most important thing in hitting,” Vaughn said. “It’s knowing your weaknesses. They would just attack and I would kind of chase a few pitches I shouldn’t. And I had to slow everything down, just be in the moment.”

Now, Vaughn feels like he has “slowed the game down.”

“That was the most important thing,” he said.

Vaughn talks to veteran teammates about hitting, logs and assesses his at-bats and can think on his feet and adjust to situations as he’s walking from the on-deck circle to the batter’s box, Clark said. He’s open-minded about his craft and “doesn’t think he knows it all.” Perhaps the nicest compliment is knowing former Sox first basemen Jim Thome and Paul Konerko are big fans.

“Konerko hit the ball to all fields, not just a power guy but a complete hitter,” Clark said. “And you see that with Vaughnie, he doesn’t want to just be a power hitter. There is success in line drives. The best hitters hit the ball on a line.”

Over his last 28 games, Vaughn was batting .330/.368/.557 with five home runs, 15 RBI and 16 runs scored. The .330 average since June 30 was the third-best in the AL.

“There are times when you feel like you’re s seeing a volleyball,” Vaughn said.

With Eloy Jimenez back in the lineup Tuesday and Luis Robert due back in a matter of days, the Sox lineup is getting deeper. Vaughn helped hold the fort down in their absence, and with them back, some of the pressure will be lifted.

“It’s all about winning. That’s what we’re here for,” Vaughn said. “We’re getting guys back, we got Eloy back, Robert is on his way and we’ve got [Yasmani Grandal] hopefully back sooner rather than later. It’s a good thing we’ve got going.”

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