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Wicker Park is another wonderful neighborhood in the city that makes your dating life that much easier. Bustling with many restaurants, shops, bars, and galleries, there are plenty of exciting and energetic spots to bring a date the next time you’re looking for a unique experience. Now you might be thinking, “Wicker Park, isn’t that the place in the city where all the hipsters hangout?” Maybe! But this Wicker Park Dating Guide will show you why this neighborhood is also a lovebird’s nest!

So, why wait any further? Let’s take a closer look at one of the most popular neighborhoods around, and hopefully, with the help of some very fun places, you’ll be starting the first chapter of your very own happily ever after. Also, don’t forget to check out the other Chicago dating guides!

Emporium Arcade Bar 

1366 N Milwaukee Ave, Chicago, IL 60622

If you know your date or partner is highly competitive, why not take them to a spot where they can let that competitive spirit shine? Emporium Arcade Bar has tons of classic games where you and your date can put yourselves to the test. It doesn’t matter who’s the best at skee ball (yes, it does), as long as you’re enjoying quality time together.

Not only can you take your skills to the arcade, but Emporium also hosts many events like live music and parties. Plus, and I’ve said it before, no first date is complete without a few drinks to take the edge off, and Emporium’s menu is staggeringly long, especially if you’re a fan of craft beers. Drink up and game on, people. 

Dove’s Luncheonette

1545 N Damen Ave, Chicago, IL 60622

When was the last time you sat at an old-fashioned counter at a diner? If your answer is “actually, never”, then Dove’s Luncheonette is the perfect place for a unique date in a setting that you don’t really see anymore. With a Dove’s twist on classic dishes, you and your date are sure to devour each satisfying bite of items like vegan masa pancakes and smash burgers.

if you’re looking to take your date out on a weeknight (always a good idea, IMO), be sure to stop by for Dove’s After Dark, which occurs on Mondays from 5-10 PM. “After Dark”, you’ll find a rotating menu of new dishes and tons of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks to sip on while you fawn over your date’s sparkling eyes and taste in music. 

The Hideout

1354 W Wabansia Ave, Chicago, IL 60642

Event-seekers, this one IS for you. Riddled with history, The Hideout is the perfect spot for anyone who wants to see just about anything to spend a date night. From concerts to comedy shows, a trip to The Hideout is sure to be two things: fun and eccentric. Self-proclaimed “clandestine destination with a guaranteed good time,” you and your date can get to know each other’s quirky sides as you delve into the history, culture, and performances woven into the venue’s 100-year-old foundation. To keep up with the upcoming happenings, which are every night, by the way, just head to their website or follow their Instagram, where fun posts and announcements are happening pretty much daily. 

Dreambox Gallery

2415 W North Ave, Chicago, IL 60647

Since 2003, Dreambox Gallery, owned by Iwona Biedermann, has been a place where artists of all kinds can showcase their work. Dreambox Gallery is the perfect place where you and your date can immerse yourself in the full scale of art across Chicago from photography to drawings to poetry and performance. There are plenty of places across the city to see art, but this immersive experience will bring you up close and personal with the lesser-known but definitely-worthy artists who house their works here. This gallery is also only open on Fridays and Saturdays from 12-4 PM, so plan your trip accordingly to ensure you have enough time to see all the incredible Chicago-based art! 

The Violet Hour 

1520 N Damen Ave, Chicago, IL 60622

If you know that your date’s eyes would light up at a huge cocktail menu, you have to take them to The Violet Hour. This cocktail bar has an expansive menu that features everything from frozen drinks to shaken cocktails to the classics (who doesn’t love a good Old Fashioned?). For a more hands-on date, The Violet Hour also offers cocktail-making classes, both in-person and virtual, and the ability to book your own private events for a more intimate setting. 

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Teenagers are an age group I don’t even pretend to understand. Even though I was one within the last 10 years, trends change so quickly and the Tik-Tok dances don’t stop coming. One thing that remains true no matter how much time passes is that Chicago is never short of things to do with your teens to get them off their phones and put some attention  back onto you. Whether it’s a good meal, something active, getting that perfect photo, or learning something new, there’s so many places in Chicago to take your teenagers this fall. 

The Hampton Social

353 W Hubbard St, Chicago, IL 6065

The Hampton Social is a city staple. From the delicious food to nautical vibes, The Hampton Social is a great place to take your teen. Everybody knows that one of the funnest things to do on the weekend is a good brunch, and this place has definitely got you covered on that. Ditch the typical weekday cereal and let your teen indulge in some sticky and sweet monkey bread, fresh salads, or some perfectly messy shrimp tacos. For the perfect Instagrammable moment, order a mocktail and pose by the famous Rose All Day sign – your kids will be thanking you when they’re racking up the likes. 

The Shedd Aquarium

1200 S DuSable Lake Shore Dr., Chicago, IL 60605

Kids think they’re too cool for a day out with their parents? Take them to the Shedd Aquarium and watch that all change. With over 32,000 animals to explore, you can plan an entire day around being entranced by the different colors, shapes, and sizes of aquatic animals. Along with the year-round exhibits and animals, you’ll always find new and exciting experiences to add to your day. The best part about a visit to the Shedd? You and your kids will get a biology lesson without realizing you’ve been learning the entire time. 

Maggie Daly Park 

 337 E Randolph St, Chicago, IL 60601

As we soak up the last of the summer sun, it’s important to get outdoors, do something active, and take deep breaths of some fresh air. By spending the day in Maggie Daly Park, not only will your family take in the best views the city has to offer, there’s tons of activities to keep you busy. For the adrenaline seekers, the park offers a rock-climbing wall, and for those who like to stay Earth-bound (myself included) bring out your rollerblades and take a few laps around the ribbon. In the winter, dust off your old skates and show your kids a thing or two about becoming an angel on the ice. Looking for a more relaxing day off? Stop at your favorite take-out restaurant and spend the day catching some rays or sprawled out on a picnic blanket. This park always has something going on, and your teens will definitely stay entertained. 

Paradise Park

1913 W North Ave, Chicago, IL 60622

Does Paradise Park have an incredible cocktail menu? Yes, but their food and non-alcoholic drinks are also out of this world. If you live even relatively close to Chicago, you’ve seen Paradise Park on your Instagram feed. The neon lights and stunning patio are only the beginning of what a mini-influencer (your kid) is looking for when heading out for a meal with their parents. Take a bite into the mouthwatering pizza, as the menu contains options like the classic pepperoni, Knife & Forkner, or Carnit-Za. Your teenager will definitely be thanking you for a fun trip and for giving them their first, age-appropriate trip to one of the trendier restaurants in the city.

WNDR Museum

1130 W Monroe St, Chicago, IL 60607

It seems like teenagers are glued to their phones these days, so take your kid to see a museum that’s not only incredibly popular but is sure to pique their interest! The WNDR Museum in the West Loop is relatively new, with a fresh concept based on giving each patron the ultimate sensory experience. Take your kids to strut across the light floor, play mind games with a room of optical illusions, and imagine endless possibilities in the infinity room. The museum encourages each visitor to think of themselves as a part of the art, and not just a viewer. We can guarantee your teen won’t stop talking about the stimulating experience, and you will have to plan another trip here for sure.

Navy Pier

600 E Grand Ave, Chicago, IL 60611

Anyone who lives around the city knows about Navy Pier. This bright and buzzing stop is an excellent place for a day spent with your teens. With so much going on, you’ll definitely have to plan your day from start to finish to ensure that you don’t miss any of the action. Whether its an action-packed ride on the Seadog or a few rounds on the Centennial Wheel, one day at Navy Pier will have you and your kids taking in all the best sights and sounds of the city. When it comes time for a meal or (another) snack break, Navy Pier is laden with restaurants like the world-famous Billy Goat Tavern, Giordano’s, or my personal favorite, the Dippin’ Dots stand. Each season becomes a spectacle at the Pier, with tons of themed events, shows, and parties. Planning to make a weekend trip out of your Chicago visit? The newly opened Sable Hotel is the place for you! 

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Nothing is more exciting than finding a new book that keeps you intrigued with every page turn. Why not enjoy the best of both worlds and grab something a little stronger while reading? There are bars around the city that allow you to indulge in your favorite cocktail and read without distraction. While Chicago is known for its lively nightlife, we also have a wide selection of bars with the best atmosphere for book lovers who prefer to cozy up with a glass of red and a good book. 

Sparrow

12 W Elm St, Chicago, IL 60610

Sparrow cocktail lounge is a hidden gem tucked away in the Gold Coast neighborhood. This quaint bar will transport you back to the 20’s with its sophisticated and timely decorum. Instead of lining the walls with TV’s like your typical bar or pub, Sparrow plays wonderful jazz music that creates a calming atmosphere. 

They have a great variety of rums from around the world. For those prefer their drinks to be a bit sweeter and fruitier, they also offer $5 daiquiris on Monday.

Drawing Room

12 S Michigan Ave, Chicago, IL 60603

 

The Drawing Room is located on the second floor of the Chicago Athletic Association Hotel. They offer cocktails, small bites, and beautiful space to unwind. The ambiance alone will keep you reading here for hours. Cafe tables, couches, and a communal library table are available, so pick your favorite seat and get cozy. They even have three grand fireplaces to warm up next to this winter. 

This is also the perfect spot for those who may not feel comfortable asking for a table of one at a more traditional bar! The space gives more of an old-school library feel than a cocktail bar. Because of the nature of the space, you’ll hardly find it to be crowded and loud. 

Kibbitznest Books, Brewery, & Blarney

2212 N Clybourn Ave, Chicago, IL 60614

Kibbitznest is the perfect place to enjoy a drink and a good book. The owner has made this space a low-tech zone, computers and phones are meant to be put away, allowing you to be fully present in the moment. Use your time spent here to unwind, dissect the plot, and fall in love with new characters. 

Take your pick from 35 different beers or even a spiked coffee, no matter your preference Kibbitznest has something for you. On Sundays, Kibbitznest officially turns into a bookbar and is a well-hidden secret among Chicago’s booklovers. Therefor, this is also the perfect place for making new nerdy friends!

Trivoli Tavern

114 N Green St, Chicago, IL 60607

Found in an alleyway and down a cobblestone path, Trivoli Tavern awaits you. Their outdoor seating instantly transports you to Europe, dining at a quaint cafe. The setting allows you to romanticize your evening spent reading and the atmosphere is just soothing enough to keep you immersed in the book at hand. 

If this isn’t enough to convince you, they also have a daily happy hour from 4:30-5:30 and offer $6 beer, wine, martinis, and more.

Volo Wine Bar

2008 W Roscoe St, Chicago, IL 60618

Voted number one for Hidden City Patio in Chicago, come enjoy a relaxing outdoor read year-round at Volo Wine Bar. Surrounded by white lanterns and lush greenery, you will feel able to read peacefully. The space is intimate so you don’t have to worry about the noisiness that usually accompanies larger bars and crowds.

Not only is the ambiance a 10/10, Volvo also offers over 30 boutique wine options. For me, a sweet white and a Colleen Hoover romance novel make for the perfect Wednesday evening at Volo. 

Queen Mary Tavern

2125 W Division St, Chicago, IL 60622

If you haven’t noticed, there is a running theme with our list of bars with the best atmosphere for book lovers. This place is no exception. Queen Mary Tavern is another neighborhood cocktail lounge with the best atmosphere for a drink and a good read. You will also find their decades of history steeping through the vintage decor. 

This place specializes in maritime spirits, cocktails and fortified wines. You can enjoy your novel on their heated patio and explore their extensive drink options to find the cocktail that best suits you. 

Featured Image: Trivoli Tavern

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Since 2004 Plastic Crimewave (aka Steve Krakow) has used the Secret History of Chicago Music to shine a light on worthy artists with Chicago ties who’ve been forgotten, underrated, or never noticed in the first place.

We won’t know the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic for many years, not least because they haven’t stopped piling up. Bodily sickness, mental illness, financial loss—everyone seems to have been afflicted differently, and the effects on our medical, political, social, and economic systems compound those individual misfortunes. New variants, vaccine updates, and long COVID are still creating unexpected problems, and in this grotesquely abnormal situation, our leaders have given us little choice but to try to live life as “normally” as we can. For many of us, that isn’t normal at all. 

COVID nearly took everything from beloved Chicago blues and boogie-woogie pianist Erwin Helfer. But not only did he survive, he’s also returned to his music and teaching career in his 86th year. Let’s start from the beginning, though, to emphasize Helfer’s extraordinary longevity and influence.

Erwin Helfer was born January 20, 1936, in Chicago, and when he was very young, his father used to throw weekend music parties. “He was a people person,” Helfer told Blues Blast Magazine in 2020. “He played washboard bass and jug, and he did a good job at it. I had a couple of ‘play’ uncles: Charlie, who played ragtime piano, and Si, who played clarinet, and they’d all get together and jam at the house.” 

At age five or so, Helfer began picking out melodies on a piano his father had bought. “I wanted a piano, and my dad was a practical joker,” he recalled in his Blues Blast interview. “When my mom and I went out shopping, we came back and there was a little Wurlitzer piano sitting in the living room. My mom was surprised. She didn’t even know about it.”

Helfer began developing his own idiosyncratic style, he says, because he didn’t have the patience to memorize existing songs note for note. When he was 12, his family moved to Glencoe, and he eventually attended New Trier High School in neighboring Winnetka. In school he fell for what he’s called “the sadness, the darkness and the joy” in blues and boogie-woogie music, after discovering New Orleans musicians George Lewis (clarinet) and Bunk Johnson (trumpet). 

Helfer also made his professional debut in high school, playing with blues singer and former vaudeville dancer Estelle “Mama” Yancey, the widow of pianist Jimmy Yancey. “She was a holy terror—and a good friend!” he told Blues Blast. “She could swear and drink more than any man on this earth!” Yancey tapped him to fill in for the legendary Little Brother Montgomery for a gig at Indiana University. 

When Russell moved to New Orleans, Helfer followed. In the mid-50s he enrolled as a psychology major at Tulane University, but he was really there for the music. He soaked up the sounds of bands at parades and funerals and studied Crescent City pianists such as Leon T. “Archibald” Gross and Professor Longhair. When Helfer met Professor Longhair, the future legend was working as a custodian at a small record store, even though he’d already released what would prove to be his biggest success, “Bald Head,” and his classic single “Tipitina” had come out in 1953.

Helfer would continue meeting early practitioners of blues and jazz—including trumpeter-cornetist De De Pierce and his wife, pianist-singer Billie—and this would open more doors for him. In 1956, Helfer was inspired to start his own label, Tone Records, to help the artists he’d met. Tone’s sole release was the 1957 compilation Primitive Piano, with Billie Pierce, Doug Suggs, James Robinson, and the St. Louis-based Speckled Red. It was recognized immediately as an important historical document, and Chicago-based label the Sirens (founded by Steve Dolins, who’d been taking lessons with Helfer) reissued it in 1975 and again in 2003.

In 1976 Helfer released the now-classic compilation Heavy Timbre: Chicago Boogie Piano through the Sirens Records. It attempts to re-create the feel of a “rent party” with tunes by heavy blues pianists such as Blind John Davis, Sunnyland Slim, and Willie Mabon. Helfer also put out his first solo album, On the Sunny Side of the Street, for the Flying Fish label in 1979. In the 70s he also toured Europe with a killer lineup featuring Chicago guitarists Eddie Taylor and Homesick James and Chicago harmonica player Big John Wrencher.

In the 80s, Helfer started a band with harmonica player and singer Billy Branch and guitarist Pete Crawford. Crawford was also Helfer’s business partner in the new Red Beans label, which released albums by the likes of Branch, Mama Yancey, Sunnyland Slim, Johnny “Big Moose” Walker, Blind John Davis, and Otis “Big Smokey” Smothers. During that decade he also cemented a fruitful musical partnership with saxophonist Clark Dean that lasted till Dean’s death in 2017. 

The pandemic proved doubly devastating for Helfer. “At least two of the things I love most—playing music and teaching—were strictly unable for me to do,” he told the Tribune. He didn’t catch COVID in the frightening initial months of its spread, but he began slipping into a paranoid and depressive place. “I had no digital skills and couldn’t manage my bank account at all, because I always just rode my bike down to the bank, put in my money, or took out my money, and mailed all my bills. This I couldn’t do. I started being dysfunctional. Some of my friends caught onto it quickly. They did research into what was the best hospital and got me into Rush University Medical Center. When I went there, I was really in bad shape.” 

Over a period of six weeks, Helfer underwent 11 sessions of electroconvulsive therapy—yes, that’s “shock treatment,” but it’s not violent anymore, no matter what you saw in One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest. “I was scheduled for 12, but I didn’t need the last one,” Helfer told DownBeat. In his Tribune interview, he sang the treatment’s praises. “It was the best therapy that I could’ve had,” he said. “I don’t know how it works, but it wasn’t painful.”

When Helfer got home from the hospital, though, he caught COVID. “[Singer and friend] Katherine Davis, when I moved back in the house, was staying here, taking care of me,” he explained to the Tribune. “But she was always outside the house, going to the South Side, where she lives. She got COVID, and I got it from her. During that period, I was sick, but she was a lot sicker. I ended up taking care of her—which was fine, because she offered right away to take care of me. She’s been a good friend for a long time. And we both have a lot of dirt on each other.”

Davis explained her motives to the Trib. “There wasn’t anybody to help take care of him, so they were talking about putting him in a nursing home,” she recalled. “And I said, ‘No. I can’t let that happen to him.’”

“Big Joe” appears on the 2021 album Celebrate the Journey by Erwin Helfer & the Chicago Boogie Ensemble.

Helfer recovered, thankfully, and in summer 2021 he gradually began performing again, mostly at the Hideout and the Hungry Brain (though he’s had to stop riding his bike to gigs). He’s back to teaching too, albeit with a much smaller complement of students. In January 2022, he performed at the Old Town School of Folk Music to celebrate his 86th birthday and the release of the 2021 album Celebrate the Journey (once again on the Sirens label). Last year he also released an instructional book, Blues Piano and How to Play It—and if anyone would know, it’s him. Helfer is a fighter, and Chicago blues is richer for it.

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Since 2004 Plastic Crimewave (aka Steve Krakow) has used the Secret History of Chicago Music to shine a light on worthy artists with Chicago ties who’ve been forgotten, underrated, or never noticed in the first place.

We won’t know the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic for many years, not least because they haven’t stopped piling up. Bodily sickness, mental illness, financial loss—everyone seems to have been afflicted differently, and the effects on our medical, political, social, and economic systems compound those individual misfortunes. New variants, vaccine updates, and long COVID are still creating unexpected problems, and in this grotesquely abnormal situation, our leaders have given us little choice but to try to live life as “normally” as we can. For many of us, that isn’t normal at all. 

COVID nearly took everything from beloved Chicago blues and boogie-woogie pianist Erwin Helfer. But not only did he survive, he’s also returned to his music and teaching career in his 86th year. Let’s start from the beginning, though, to emphasize Helfer’s extraordinary longevity and influence.

Erwin Helfer was born January 20, 1936, in Chicago, and when he was very young, his father used to throw weekend music parties. “He was a people person,” Helfer told Blues Blast Magazine in 2020. “He played washboard bass and jug, and he did a good job at it. I had a couple of ‘play’ uncles: Charlie, who played ragtime piano, and Si, who played clarinet, and they’d all get together and jam at the house.” 

At age five or so, Helfer began picking out melodies on a piano his father had bought. “I wanted a piano, and my dad was a practical joker,” he recalled in his Blues Blast interview. “When my mom and I went out shopping, we came back and there was a little Wurlitzer piano sitting in the living room. My mom was surprised. She didn’t even know about it.”

Helfer began developing his own idiosyncratic style, he says, because he didn’t have the patience to memorize existing songs note for note. When he was 12, his family moved to Glencoe, and he eventually attended New Trier High School in neighboring Winnetka. In school he fell for what he’s called “the sadness, the darkness and the joy” in blues and boogie-woogie music, after discovering New Orleans musicians George Lewis (clarinet) and Bunk Johnson (trumpet). 

Helfer also made his professional debut in high school, playing with blues singer and former vaudeville dancer Estelle “Mama” Yancey, the widow of pianist Jimmy Yancey. “She was a holy terror—and a good friend!” he told Blues Blast. “She could swear and drink more than any man on this earth!” Yancey tapped him to fill in for the legendary Little Brother Montgomery for a gig at Indiana University. 

When Russell moved to New Orleans, Helfer followed. In the mid-50s he enrolled as a psychology major at Tulane University, but he was really there for the music. He soaked up the sounds of bands at parades and funerals and studied Crescent City pianists such as Leon T. “Archibald” Gross and Professor Longhair. When Helfer met Professor Longhair, the future legend was working as a custodian at a small record store, even though he’d already released what would prove to be his biggest success, “Bald Head,” and his classic single “Tipitina” had come out in 1953.

Helfer would continue meeting early practitioners of blues and jazz—including trumpeter-cornetist De De Pierce and his wife, pianist-singer Billie—and this would open more doors for him. In 1956, Helfer was inspired to start his own label, Tone Records, to help the artists he’d met. Tone’s sole release was the 1957 compilation Primitive Piano, with Billie Pierce, Doug Suggs, James Robinson, and the St. Louis-based Speckled Red. It was recognized immediately as an important historical document, and Chicago-based label the Sirens (founded by Steve Dolins, who’d been taking lessons with Helfer) reissued it in 1975 and again in 2003.

In 1976 Helfer released the now-classic compilation Heavy Timbre: Chicago Boogie Piano through the Sirens Records. It attempts to re-create the feel of a “rent party” with tunes by heavy blues pianists such as Blind John Davis, Sunnyland Slim, and Willie Mabon. Helfer also put out his first solo album, On the Sunny Side of the Street, for the Flying Fish label in 1979. In the 70s he also toured Europe with a killer lineup featuring Chicago guitarists Eddie Taylor and Homesick James and Chicago harmonica player Big John Wrencher.

In the 80s, Helfer started a band with harmonica player and singer Billy Branch and guitarist Pete Crawford. Crawford was also Helfer’s business partner in the new Red Beans label, which released albums by the likes of Branch, Mama Yancey, Sunnyland Slim, Johnny “Big Moose” Walker, Blind John Davis, and Otis “Big Smokey” Smothers. During that decade he also cemented a fruitful musical partnership with saxophonist Clark Dean that lasted till Dean’s death in 2017. 

The pandemic proved doubly devastating for Helfer. “At least two of the things I love most—playing music and teaching—were strictly unable for me to do,” he told the Tribune. He didn’t catch COVID in the frightening initial months of its spread, but he began slipping into a paranoid and depressive place. “I had no digital skills and couldn’t manage my bank account at all, because I always just rode my bike down to the bank, put in my money, or took out my money, and mailed all my bills. This I couldn’t do. I started being dysfunctional. Some of my friends caught onto it quickly. They did research into what was the best hospital and got me into Rush University Medical Center. When I went there, I was really in bad shape.” 

Over a period of six weeks, Helfer underwent 11 sessions of electroconvulsive therapy—yes, that’s “shock treatment,” but it’s not violent anymore, no matter what you saw in One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest. “I was scheduled for 12, but I didn’t need the last one,” Helfer told DownBeat. In his Tribune interview, he sang the treatment’s praises. “It was the best therapy that I could’ve had,” he said. “I don’t know how it works, but it wasn’t painful.”

When Helfer got home from the hospital, though, he caught COVID. “[Singer and friend] Katherine Davis, when I moved back in the house, was staying here, taking care of me,” he explained to the Tribune. “But she was always outside the house, going to the South Side, where she lives. She got COVID, and I got it from her. During that period, I was sick, but she was a lot sicker. I ended up taking care of her—which was fine, because she offered right away to take care of me. She’s been a good friend for a long time. And we both have a lot of dirt on each other.”

Davis explained her motives to the Trib. “There wasn’t anybody to help take care of him, so they were talking about putting him in a nursing home,” she recalled. “And I said, ‘No. I can’t let that happen to him.’”

“Big Joe” appears on the 2021 album Celebrate the Journey by Erwin Helfer & the Chicago Boogie Ensemble.

Helfer recovered, thankfully, and in summer 2021 he gradually began performing again, mostly at the Hideout and the Hungry Brain (though he’s had to stop riding his bike to gigs). He’s back to teaching too, albeit with a much smaller complement of students. In January 2022, he performed at the Old Town School of Folk Music to celebrate his 86th birthday and the release of the 2021 album Celebrate the Journey (once again on the Sirens label). Last year he also released an instructional book, Blues Piano and How to Play It—and if anyone would know, it’s him. Helfer is a fighter, and Chicago blues is richer for it.

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Traditional dating isn’t for everyone. Some people want serious relationships while others want something more casual, like a hookup. The taboo around casual dating has subsided in recent years. Casual daters have plenty of options, but most opt to try hookup sites to find what (and who) they want.

Different sites cater to different tastes. A site’s speciality is not always immediately apparent. So it can be a challenge to find the right site for you. That’s where we come in. We’ve signed up for and tried the best hookup sites and apps for casual encounters to get some action.

Let’s dive into the reviews and ratings.

Click ↓ next to the name of the site to jump straight to the review.

Best Hookup Sites and Apps for Casual Dating in 2022

RankSiteBest For1.Adult FriendFinder ↓Best overall hookup site2. BuddyBang ↓Runner-up3.BeNaughty ↓Best for flirtiest singles4.Ashley Madison ↓Best for affairs5.Seeking ↓Best for sugar baby/sugar daddy/mommy6.ALT ↓Best for alternative and BDSM sex7.OKCupid ↓Top choice for millennials8.Hinge ↓Somewhat serious, but mostly FWB9.Zoosk ↓Best for short-term dating10.Bumble ↓Best for women11.Plenty of Fish ↓Best for lots of options12.Tinder ↓Most popular app13.Pure App ↓Best for fantasy based14.Feeld ↓Most open-minded singles15.Sex Messenger ↓Best for anonymous hookups16.Reddit R4R ↓Best completely free option

1.  Adult FriendFinder – Best overall hookup site

SpecificationRatingUser experience★★★★★Real profiles★★★★★Success rate★★★★★Customer service★★★★

Adult FriendFinder is the oldest and most popular hookup site. As its name suggests, it’s primarily interested in helping adults make, *ahem*, adult friends.

It caters to swinging, non-monogamous relationships, threesomes, and experimental arrangements. Whether you’re looking for an NSA (no-strings-attached) relationship, a one-night stand to spice up your marriage, or a quick fling, you’ll find someone looking for the same thing.

Once you create a profile on Adult FriendFinder, you can customize your search to narrow down people interested in the same arrangement as you.

Adult FriendFinder has bonus additional content such as webcam shows and erotic stories. So if you need a little warming up before connecting with someone, you’re covered.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$39.95 totalThree months$26.95/month ($80.85 total)One year$19.95/month ($239.40 total)

What Users Think About Adult FriendFinder

“I was on another site. Met a guy who told me about Adult FriendFinder (AFF). I signed up. Have been on AFF for a little over a year and a half. Have nothing but praise. When AFF works, it WORKS! For the most part, I have met some truly wonderful men. Local men, business men coming through my area, couples. Overwhelmingly positive experience and exactly what I was looking for: no strings, no drama, casual sex.”

Need a little more info before taking the plunge? Check out our in-depth Adult FriendFinder review.

2.  BuddyBang – Runner-up

SpecificationRatingUser experience★★★★Real profiles★★★★★Success rate★★★★★Customer service★★★★★

BuddyBang helps you find a buddy to sleep with. That shouldn’t be hard for you to figure out. This no-judgement site operates like an express train to the friends-with-benefits phase. It’s as simple as browse, chat, bang.

While you won’t find romance here, you will find passion. Lustful adults flock to BuddyBang to chat and make connections. Ultimately, the goal is to arrange a meetup with a saucy stranger in your area. If you’re lucky, that one-night stand might turn into a long-term arrangement.

With a relatively affordable monthly subscription and advanced search filters, getting laid on BuddyBang is a piece of cake. It’s way easier than shelling out tons of cash for dinner dates that may lead nowhere.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$39.95 totalThree months$26.95/month ($80.85 total)One year$19.95/month ($239.40 total)

What Users Think About BuddyBang

“A lotta hookup sites out there, which means a lot of scams. Gotta be honest, at first I was skeptical of BuddyBang. Seemed like another fake site that just wanted your cash. But I was pleasantly surprised. More than that, I was very happy with my experience. I met a couple real girls here who, let’s just say, were down to get down. And that’s all I wanted. I wasn’t a creep. I kept it cool, wasn’t aggressive with messaging and it all worked. I recommend it!”

3.  BeNaughty – Best for flirty singles

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BeNaughty naturally draws some of the most frisky singles in your area. It’s in the name. Plus, breaking the ice is easy as BeNaughty gives users tons of ways to connect. Browse the gallery or enter a naughty chat room for potential dates. When you find someone you like, you can send a wink, a message, or start a live one-on-one chat.

BeNaughty works because it’s to-the-point. While users are looking for fast fun, there is no time for games. They want a hookup, and quickly.

Open-minded and discreet, BeNaughty gives you the option to seek out singles or couples for a fast fling. By adjusting your search filter, you can find your ideal scenario and weed out people who aren’t your type.

Membership LengthPriceThree day trial$1.05/dayOne month$27.01 totalThree months$15.15/month ($45.45 total)Six months$12.24/month ($73.44 total)

What Users Think About BeNaughty

“Here you can be selective. The choice of profiles is quite large. The girls are active, many of them are constantly online. There are those who only like online communication and do not want to go on dates. However, it is their choice. If you are interested in online flirting, it will be a lot of fun with this site. Some people want more, so I’m still looking for someone to go on a real date with me.”

4.  Ashley Madison – Best for affairs

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Ashley Madison has the reputation of being a site for affairs and discreet married dating. Its slogan is literally “Life is short. Have an affair.” The brand has become notoriously known over the years for being a site for married people to flirt and hook up.

The site caters to students in relationships, lonely wives, married men, and everyday people who want to find a safe space to maintain an affair and not be judged. This hookup site is excellent for those who are attached and seeking excitement from a monotone lifestyle and exploring the world of extramarital affairs.

Ashley Madison is the first married dating website and is committed to discretion. Despite the backlash and reputation, this site continues to be popular and has an immense database that crosses every major city in the world.

Membership TierPriceBasic100 credits at $0.59/creditClassic500 credits at $0.34/creditElite1,000 credits at $0.29/credit

You message and live chat with users in exchange for credits. It’s about 5 credits to sent a message or 50 credits/hour to live chat. For more information about credits and other aspects of the site, see our full Ashley Madison review.

What Users Think About Ashley Madison

“As a woman, I can tell you that this site works. I’ve met and hooked up with a lot of great guys. However, I will say that since there are considerably more men than women on the site you have to make yourself stand out from the crowd. Women like to be wined and dined and brought on business trips, to a nice hotel, etc… Be patient, it works. I found a great guy who I have been hooking up with on a regular basis for over 2 years now and we are very happy with the arrangement.”

5.  Seeking – Best for sugar relationships

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Seeking has undergone a brand transformation, but it still attracts a straightforward target audience: rich and experienced individuals seeking the young and gorgeous. This sugar daddy site is about helping daddies and mommas find sugar babies or cubs for hookups.

It has a much higher user base of women because the “sugar baby” theme brings many young women to the site. The site claims to have four times the number of women than men in their database. The prerequisite is that sugar daddies have to be wealthy and successful. They give priority to verified “elite members” who join with the sole intention of spoiling their sugar babies with money and attention.

Seeking is a great site for beautiful young women looking for fun, attention, and a “daddy” to spoil them! This site is not the best to find a lasting love story—it’s geared toward hookups and has a more transaction-like nature.

Women who’d like to meet a well-off older man (or would be babies), you’re in luck – you do not have to pay to use Seeking.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$89.95/monthThree month$79.95/month ($239.85 total)Diamond (more premium features)$249.95/month

What Users Think About Seeking

“Came across them on Facebook and decided to spend a few bucks to find some men. Although not all the men were true to their description and some being scammers, it was pretty easy to find the genuinely interested ones from the fakes. It is a dating site for the wealthier crowd as we spend a lot of money but you can find a suitable candidate here.”

Still not sure or need more information? Check out our full Seeking review.

6.  ALT – Best for alternative relationships

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ALT is a full-on casual sex website. It’s not for anyone who is on the hunt for a serious relationship. This site is all about casual sex in every form to gratify any sex-seeker! The website’s community is made up of those who are into alternative bondage, who enjoy hooking up online, live, and in-person for sex dates.

It’s a dating site that caters to people who want to find alternative, BDSM, bondage, and fetish partners who can connect online and meet in person. ALT speaks to swingers, dominatrixes, and mistresses looking for power exchange.

ALT is the leading BDSM site, with almost 2 million members. You can easily customize your fetish and find someone who is into the same kinks as you! Remember that this site is all about kink, such as orgies, being humiliated, or being tortured, and not about vanilla sex. So, if you’re looking for just plain sex, opt for another option on this list.

Membership TierPriceSilver$19.95/monthGold$29.95/month

What Users Think About ALT

“Don’t listen to all the haters!!!! Alt.com is one of the best sites. Been using it in the past and it worked quite good. Nowadays I’d also try Casuasexonly.com and Fetlife.com. And there are also a few smaller sites that work but they are more ‘special niche sites’.”

7. OKCupid – Best for millennials and young people

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OKCupid is a mainstream dating app that caters to many different kinds of relationships. It provides a multitude of choices for millennials looking not just for long-term relationships but options for short-term relationships, casual dating, and hookups. All you have to do is set that as what you are looking for, and they match you to like-minded people!

This site gears toward a generally younger audience—the age group between 18-29. This site is also one of the most inclusive mainstream dating websites that includes many gender and orientation options, helping you zero in on the particular pool of choices you want!

OKCupid may be a mainstream dating app that includes finding long-term relationships, but given its wide range of options, filters, and preferences, it’s a great app for hookups and casual sex as well. Just be up-front and be prepared to meet a great bunch of locals looking for the same things as you.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$19.95 totalSix months$9.95/month ($59.70 total)

What Users Think About OKCupid

“OkCupid is a dating app worth checking out. For the most part I have been disappointed with my dating app experiences. I have been pleasantly surprised with the results from OkCupid. There seems to be an endless supply of genuine women interested in a relationship. After several weeks of using the app for free, I decided to become a subscriber. I have been satisfied with my decision.”

8.  Hinge – Best for hybrid serious and FWB relationships

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Hinge is a mainstream dating app that focuses on finding real romance—but it is also used to find casual sex and friends with benefits. The truth about Hinge is that it’s “designed to be deleted.”

But fear not! This app is incredibly popular with the younger crowd (18 to 29 years of age) and has filters to state the nature of the relationship you’re interested in. This setup is the best for friends with benefits because you have to answer questions about yourself and your preferences, which will bring you closer to meeting someone you share similar interests with and are attracted to!

Hinge is a great hookup app for those who want to find a casual relationship where you hook up with the same person a few times instead of just a one-night stand. Just be straight up with what you’re looking for—and you might just meet a new FWB with absolutely no strings attached.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$19.95 totalThree months$20.99 totalSix months$29.99 total

What Users Think About Hinge

“Hinge is amazing! I think the thing that I like about it is that if you don’t pay it limits you to 10 likes a day and so it’s more likely that people will pay attention to you rather than getting distracted by yet another profile. And everyone is more careful about who they pick so if you match you’re more likely to talk I think. It also does a great job of conversation prompts that go with photos or without. Definitely check it out.”

9.  Zoosk – Best for short term dating

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Zoosk is a great short-term dating site that is internationally famous. It has a community of 35 million users in 80 different countries, and it is open to singles of all ages, races, religions, and sexual orientations—making it one of the most diverse casual dating apps.

This app may not be the best for casual hookups and one-night stands, but it is a good contender for short-term dating. If you’re in your early to mid-20s, you’ll find a great selection of singles who are interested in short-term or casual relationships.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$29.95 totalThree months$19.98/month ($59.94 total)Six months$12.49/month ($74.94 total)

What Users Think About Zoosk

“Satisfied with the outcome, pretty good dating site. I think the price is OK and I liked the option of pausing account, very useful when you’re trying to focus on one person. As we all know, it takes several attempts to meet someone you are really interested in.”

10.  Bumble – Safest for women

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Bumble has gained a reputation for being different from most other mainstream dating and hookup apps. If you haven’t heard of this app already, Bumble is one of the first and only sites where women make the first move and get to screen potential men immediately. Men simply cannot reach out to any women unless they’ve initiated contact and interest.

It is catered towards and attracts more women than men looking to mingle or find networking opportunities, friends, or hookups! Even though it has a relatively positive and clean rep, it’s a great site for educated, good-looking men who are searching for successful, bold women.

Membership TierPricePremium$8.99/month

What Users Think About Bumble

“The Bumble app has an easy format to navigate and I like that women have to make the first contact. That Helped me out of my comfort zone. I liked that you can adjust your distance from possible matches.”

11.  Plenty of Fish – Best for lots of options

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Plenty of Fish has the largest user base. POF was launched in 2003, being one of the oldest dating sites. Since it’s free and easy to sign up, you’re going to be exposed to a lot of different types of people, looking for different things, so you’ll have to filter through them all.

Since it’s been around for a long time, it has gained a reputation as a matchmaker site that will ask questions about your family, career, and interests to match you with similar users. It’s catered for people who want to dip their toes into dating and hookup sites to explore options.

Plenty of Fish may or may not have people looking for casual sex, depending on your luck. It’s a matchmaker site that is geared more for a long-term commitment. So you have to be prepared to screen different kinds of people.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$19.99/monthThree months$9.80/month ($29.40/total)One year$5.95/month ($71.40 total)

What Users Think About Plenty of Fish

“Plenty of catfish and foreigners who can’t speak English. However, even if you’re not a paid subscriber you can opt in for only paid subscribers. The site also provides an option for voice calls through the app. I’m going to try the site out for a month or so, then may upgrade to being a paid subscriber. POF has really improved its website since I was on it a year ago. Have fun and meet someone!”

12.  Tinder – Most popular app

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You didn’t think this list was going to end without this sex gem of an app, did you? Tinder is the most widely known hookup app of this generation. It has an infamous rep for finding casual sex ASAP.

Tinder caters to men and women looking to get laid based on appearance. It’s known for its classic swiping left to reject and swiping right to like someone’s profile. If you’re looking for sex, Tinder has a huge user base and a large number of locals, meaning you can probably secure a sex date tonight—but the catch is that your profile needs to stand out. If you’re not conventionally attractive, you’re going to struggle to find dates.

For men who can’t seem to find dates, Tinder has a large user base of escorts who will private message their rates. If you’re horny and want it—then maybe you can meet a potential escort on Tinder.

Membership Length/TierPriceLimited SwipesFreeOne month$9.99 total if you’re under 30One month$19.99 total if you’re over 30

What Users Think About Tinder

“I’ve been using tinder for quite some time and I really enjoy it! I travel a lot and t’s great way to meet new people. Tinder has a feature called Face To Face you can use to video chat within the app. Tinder has on-demand safety features via Noonlight, which offers a Timeline feature where users can share first date details on their Timelines, like who they’re meeting, when and where. Users can also discreetly contact emergency services via Noonlight.”

13.  Pure App – Best for fantasy based hookups

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Pure App was created for shameless and judgment-free fantasy and desire-based dating. This app is purely for NSA affairs and is completely secretive and anonymous. It encourages its users to be whoever they choose to be and still be themselves.

It caters to people who have wild fantasies or desires that aren’t celebrated on mainstream dating and hookup apps. It allows your individuality to shine through—choosing your gender and sexuality—and providing guaranteed privacy and safety to video chat and meet whoever shares the same fantasies as you.

Pure App uses your GPS location on your phone to find other Pure users looking for some NSA action. You just have to post a photo and an up-front headline and wait to see if anyone close is interested. When you’re done, your profile will vanish, along with all your messages and photos—no need to worry about deactivating or privacy issues.

Membership LengthPriceOne week$14.99 totalOne month$19.99 total

What Users Think About Pure App

“I am a 25 year old attractive woman, I have never been on a site before however After almost a year of dating and taking things slowly and 4 months of not being interested enough to take things further, I broke and downloaded pure. Downloaded Wednesday, Thursday (yesterday) spontaneously arranged to meet a really really attractive guy who spent a few great hours with me. We got along really well. I also had a video chat with a really attractive couple who I’ll be meeting soon. I’m speaking to other really attractive guys as well.”

14.  Feeld – Best for adventurous singles

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Feeld is a hookup app for couples and singles to explore their kinks and desires in a no-judgement atmosphere.

It includes couples’ accounts where you and your partner can date a lover or meet someone for a threesome. It’s inclusive for all genders and sexual orientations. Overall, it’s a sex-positive space for anyone looking to explore beyond “the norm” in today’s society.

Feeld prides itself on being responsible and ethical. It connects people with like-minded folk and encourages curious monogamous couples to link with partners who are also interested. It is a safe space that allows couples to explore their desires in the most honest way possible.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$14.99 totalThree months$29.98 total

What Users Think About Feeld

“It’s called the ‘Tinder for threesomes’ for a reason. I’ll let you do the imagining.”

15.  Sex Messenger – Best for anonymous hookups

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Sex Messenger is an anonymous instant messaging app—like WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger. But you never share your name because it’s meant to be discreet and only for sexting and trading nudes.

This app is an adult social network that is much more than an online sex chat. It caters to people who want to connect with other people who want to engage in sex and dirty talk, and fulfill each other’s sexual fantasies. Instant messaging on this app and posting blog entries will help you gain the attention you want from like-minded people.

All members must verify their accounts, so this weeds out fake profiles, scammers, and bots. Members can contribute to the website through Sex Messenger’s forums, chats, group sections, sex stories, and blogs. It’s all anonymous and fully discrete. This app is a great way to sext, increase sexual tension, and finally meet up to do the deed.

Membership LengthPriceOne month$14.95 total

What Users Think About Sex Messenger

“I’m recently single and wanted to have a little fun but was skeptical about trying something online. You hear about the horror stories. I found Sex Messenger and immediately thought SCAM. But I gave it a shot and found a couple fun guys within a couple weeks. I didn’t need to renew my membership.”

16.  Reddit R4R – Best completely free option

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Reddit R4R is one of the best options for browse casual sex options for free. If you’re looking for a hookup but don’t want to sign up, post photos of yourself, and write out a bio to describe who you are and what you want . . . you found the site for you!

This site works as a personals subreddit. It works like any other subreddit. Anyone can post—no photos, no personal information needed! All you have to do is list some things about yourself and the type of person you’re looking for. And then you wait to see if anyone responds to your post.

Reddit R4R is free, so all you have to do is download the Reddit app, and you don’t need to worry about spending money. If you want to be a trusted member and not get blocked, just follow the posting rules! Users love this site to get laid because it’s easy to use, free, and starts an instant conversation with like-minded people.

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What Users Think About Reddit R4R

“Look, it’s Reddit. You ‘get what you pay for,’ but it’s cool to scroll the profiles and chat for free. Too many guys but I definitely found and met up with a couple hotties.”

Hookup Site Guide

Still on the fence about whether or not you should start using hookup apps? Or maybe you’re already using them but want some more information? Check out this useful guide to answer any lingering questions you may have and walk away with some important safety tips about casual sex.

What Makes a Hookup Site Good?

It’s important to note that different sites cater to different kinds of people. So before creating a profile on any old hookup site, read the reviews to make sure it meets your needs.

Here are a few tips to find the best hookup site specific to you:

If you have a particular kink or preference, keep an eye out for it. (example: Looking for discreet affairs? Ashley Madison is the one for you!)Make sure the size of the user base is relatively large. More options mean a better chance of finding someone to hook up with.Find a site that allows users to be up-front about what they want. Usually, apps have preferences, and you can set yours to “casual relationship” or “hookup.”Make sure the customer service contact information is front and center. You shouldn’t have to go on an expedition to contact the site.

FAQs About Hookup Sites

Q: Are hookup sites safe?

Like any online dating platform, reputable hookup sites have embedded safety features that still require user discretion. It can be dangerous if you don’t take proper safety measures. Generally, these sites and apps regulate safety by banning bots and scammers and have options to report any bad or suspicious behavior. So if you’re planning on joining, be aware and try your best not to be too gullible—you can never be sure who you will come across online!

Q: Are there any completely free hookup sites?

It sucks that most dating apps and casual sex apps require you to subscribe to get optimum results. But sites like Reddit R4R and Craigslist Activities offer a free platform to chat, flirt, and arrange sex dates. But the only downside is that there is no moderation and you won’t be talking to a verified profile and have to be extra cautious.

Q: What hookup sites are free for women?

The reality is that dating apps make it very easy for women to find sex. Most high-rated dating sites offer women free memberships (mostly to balance out the male/female ratio on their site). Sex sites that are free for women include Bumble, OkCupid, Tinder, Seeking, Hinge, Her, and Pure.

Q: What is the best LGBTQ+ option?

Though there are a few options, only two rise to the top. HER is the best for women seeking women and Grindr is best for men seeking for men. These two sites also cater to non-binary people.

Final Verdict

If you’re looking for some action tonight, welcome to the world of casual sex sites and apps.

The best hookup sites are on top for a reason—everyone on there is eager to find sex and casual flings just like you! More than mainstream dating apps that cater to a plethora of things such as long-term dating, friendships, and so on, hookup apps are catered only towards sex and NSA fun!

The best hookup site is Adult FriendFinder (AFF) followed closely by BuddyBang. AFF emphasizes anonymity, safety, a massive user base, and a brand name that is verified. Most people on this site are looking for a good time with so many different types of kinks and fantasies. So what are you waiting for?

Hopefully, this list gives you an idea of what sex app is the best for you to get started on today.

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