Sometimes I think I will scream if I hear or read one more story about Thanksgiving that centers around food. A day to give thanks is not meant to be a day all about food and eating.

Not all. But being thankful for food — particular, special food, whether it’s available only at “the holidays” or it’s a special family recipe — is just fine. Just remember to be thankful for food, not thankful about food.

One of the quotations about thankfulness that I found on my recent “browsing through Bartlett’s” is one that reminded me of my recent post about tea.

“Thank God for tea! What would the world do without tea? — how did it exist? I am glad I was not born before tea.” — from “Recipe for Salad” by Sydney Smith (1711-1845)

Also, it’s hard to realize in more urban parts of the country, but Thanksgiving is related to harvest festivals — a way to give thanks that there will be enough food to get through the winter. That has taken on a new tone this year, but many of us will still hear, if only by computer linkup, one of the more familiar hymns of thanks:

“Come, ye thankful people, come,

Raise the song of harvest home;

All is safely gathered in,

Ere the winter storms begin.”

— by Henry Alford (1810-1871)

Thanks to all of you for spending some of your reading time with me. Happy Thanksgiving, whether you’re officially celebrating the holiday in the U.S. or just taking a moment to add some thankfulness to your un-official days.

Margaret Serious has a page on Facebook. 

The featured image above gained attention when it was thought to be a picture of Brian Kemp (left) and Gregory McMichael (right).

Kemp, former Georgia Secretary of State, is best known for stealing the governorship from Stacey Abrams, refusing to recuse himself from overseeing an election in which he was a candidate.  His crimes include a multitude of GOP-type voter suppression techniques.

McMichael is the man who, along with his son, Travis stalked and murdered Ahmaud Arbery.

The picture, however, was miscaptioned.

The guy in the yellow shirt is a different racist dickhead named Jim Stachowiak, from whom Kemp later tried to distance himself, even though the message on Stachowiak’s shirt was clear.

The black letters boldly emblazoned on Stachowiak’s yellow shirt proclaim, ALLAH IS NOT GOD.

To me, rumination about the nature or existence of God is pointless.  It’s mental masturbation without the possibility of release.

I capitalize the word “God,”  out of respect for those who believe.  Isn’t that the point of the 1st Amendment?

We have a constitutional right to believe or not believe anything we choose and an obligation to respect the beliefs of others.

Some of us, however, are not so inclined.  Some of us think that the beliefs of others are irrelevant and/or evil and that if we can not dictate their actions based upon our beliefs, then our religious freedom is being abridged.

The some of us to whom I refer are the Religious Right.  Evangelicals and bible thumpers of all stripes who have weaponized religion to subjugate those who don’t share their beliefs.

They pretend to be persecuted while working feverishly to limit the freedom of others to live lives of their choosing.

For the record, IT WAS NEVER ILLEGAL TO SAY MERRY CHRISTMAS.

Any institution that chose to switch to the less faith based greeting of Happy Holidays did so out of an outsized supplication to political correctness.

I’ve always said Merry Christmas and, like Bill Murray in Scrooged, enjoy that one time of the year when we make an effort to be a little nicer, a little more generous of spirit.

Those on the right are big on appropriating things for themselves.

They were the party of law and order, until they collectively decided that they would not hold their president accountable for the most lawless administration in American history.

They were the party of military support, until their president began trashing American heroes, military leaders and Gold Star families.

They are the party that gets to decide what it is to be an American and they do it at rallies where they fly Nazi and Confederate flags.

They were staunch opponents of Vladimir Putin until he started running our foreign and domestic policies through his orange puppet.

There’s about a billion and half Muslims in the world, some three and half million of them living here in the United States.  Who is Jim Stachowiak to tell them that their God is not real?

In the second chapter of the Koran it says, And your Allah is One Allah. There is no god but He, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

The Torah makes the same claim, as does the New Testament.  As a point of fact, IT WAS MAN WHO DECIDED THAT JESUS WAS A DEITY.

Followers of Jesus  did that with the help of a heathen named Constantine who needed to consolidate his power as emperor of Rome.

I’ve been critical of Christians of late, but not for their beliefs, rather for their betrayal of those beliefs.  If you call yourself Christian, you have to stand up to those who turn away from some of his most basic teachings, the most basic virtues of humanity.

Christ urged his followers to heal the sick, not to take away their access to health care.  He preached feeding the hungry, not ending food assistance programs.

He said to welcome strangers and give shelter to the those in need.  Does that sound like Donald Trump, Brian Kemp or even Pat Robertson?

By turning away from his principles, you marginalize the guy you say is your savior.  Attacking the beliefs of others doesn’t demonstrate devotion to yours.

Maybe Allah isn’t God.  Then again, there are many who think of Jesus as just a really good guy, someone whose examples we could all follow.

And he was, after all, a good carpenter.

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On August 7, 1974, and on September 15, 1998, the Chicago Tribune editorial board did something that I am still waiting for it to do in 2020: It published an editorial demanding the immediate resignation of the President of the United States.

I dearly want the Tribune to do that now, any day. If we’re lucky, the Chicago Sun-Times editorial board will do so too, as will any number of ed boards around the country, just as scores of papers did in 1974 with President Nixon, and in 1998 with President Clinton.

President Trump’s actions in office this year alone have been far worse than anything Nixon or Clinton did (even Trump agreed with the latter), and yet to my knowledge, only one newspaper in the country has published an editorial in 2020 demanding his resignation. That was the Portland Press Herald in Maine, which wrote on June 5 that Trump — just the third president in U.S. history to be impeached — “lacks the character, maturity and judgment to lead the country in a perilous time.”

That paper cited Trump’s failure in three areas: containing COVID-19, rebuilding the economy during the recession and bringing peace to the protests over the police murder of George Floyd.

The pandemic has only gotten worse. Tomorrow, many Americans will spend Thanksgiving without their full family celebrations so as not to spread or contract the virus, while far too many other Americans will flout medical advice and see family anyhow. I have trouble placing too much blame at the feet of the Americans who get together with family, since many will be following the advice of the president, who one study showed was “likely the largest driver of … COVID-19 misinformation” in the country.

The president’s attack on our elections

The president’s COVID-19 lies became even more dangerous when he mixed them with the election. While the president spent the summer and fall raging against masks, he also raged against mail-in ballots, seemingly hoping that the people who listened to him on one would be the same people who would listen to him on the other. 

Those Americans more inclined to vote for his challenger would also be the ones less inclined to vote in person, and since mail-in ballots would be counted after in-person ballots, Trump would, the thinking went, simply declare victory on election night even when votes were still being counted.

He would do this with preemptive legal action, he said on Nov. 2, the day before the election: “I think it’s a terrible thing when ballots can be collected after an election. … I think a lot of fraud and misuse can take place … and we’re going to go in the night of, as soon as that election’s over, we’re going in with our lawyers.”

This is, of course, exactly what happened. And this is where the president committed an offense against Americans that is the second worst thing he’s done in 2020, after the nearly 260,000 COVID deaths on his watch: He didn’t simply take baseless legal action or claim that he believed he was going to win — he claimed on election night that he “already (had) won.”

“We were getting ready to win this election,” Trump said in a press conference while millions of votes were still being counted in an election he would end up losing in a historic defeat for an incumbent. “And frankly, we did win this election.”

He baselessly claimed that the election was a “major fraud on our nation” and said he would take his case to the U.S. Supreme Court. 

“We will win this,” he said, “and as far as I’m concerned, we already have won.”

Fast forward three weeks, and still no newspaper that I’ve seen besides the Press Herald has published an editorial demanding the president’s resignation. I would imagine that editorial boards feel that with Joe Biden winning the election, such an editorial would be pointless. 

Why it matters that the president won’t concede

Yet we now have another problem that demands our journalism leaders: Trump won’t concede.

Donald Trump’s governing principle is simple: Donald Trump is the lone source of truth and anything that objects is fake. The press is fake, negative news stories about him are fake, photos of his sparse inauguration crowd are fake, COVID-19 is fake — and now, the election is fake. 

None of this is funny. The president has attacked our elections ever since he won in 2016, back when he lied and said that he only lost the popular vote to Hillary Clinton because of three to five million illegal votes cast solely for her. He launched a commission to investigate voter fraud, and disbanded it a year later when it came up empty. He boomed repeatedly and with no evidence about impending voter fraud in the 2020 election, and now, since election day, his barrage of legal action has strictly targeted states he lost — six of them in all — with repeated attempts to disenfranchise Americans simply because they likely voted against him.

He is losing in court. Badly. Even now as I write this, with Emily Murphy, the administrator of the General Services Administration, approving the formal transition process, Trump is still fighting against the extraordinarily normal act of concession.

The closest he has come to a concession was two days ago, when he tweeted that, “I am recommending that Emily and her team do what needs to be done with regard to initial protocols, and have told my team to do the same.”

Yet even yesterday, he again claimed that the election was “stolen” from him, a drum he seemingly will beat long into his twilight years, summed up best in an infamous tweet on Nov. 15 in which he wrote in all capital letters, “I WON THE ELECTION!”

When journalism fails, democracy does too

It would be easy to dismiss all of this as the desperate, innocuous ramblings of a man who one way or another will be out of the White House on January 20. I can see editorial boards discarding the notion of an editorial calling for his concession out of the assumption that his departure is a foregone conclusion.

But the effects of his refusal to abide by this previously rote, American norm are proving deadly for both our democracy and our electorate. I’ve heard plenty of people, including friends and family, say that none of these efforts are “working,” citing his court losses as proof of his failure. This depends on one’s definition of “working.” I look at the number of GOP elected officials who, today, still refuse to acknowledge President-elect Joe Biden, and I see a win for Trump. I look at pro-Trump polling and I see a win for Trump.

Last week, a Reuters / Ipsos poll found that 52% of Republican respondents believed that the president had “rightfully won” the 2020 election. This week, according to a CNBC/Change Research poll, that number is even higher, as 73% of all polled Trump voters believe that Trump is the “legitimate winner” of this election.

The longer that the president holds this office and continues claiming that he won an election that he lost, the longer his followers will continue to believe that the American system is rigged against him. 

This is a deep problem for our elections moving forward; mild rebukes from journalists help legitimize this bogus notion that every vote not cast for a given candidate is suspect, and that no election is finished until it has been baseless challenged in court. 

A more immediate problem is in our attempt to at long last contain and defeat the virus. Those who believe Trump “rightfully won” an election he lost are unlikely to follow any safety measures imposed by the rightful president whom they deem a usurper.

Trump is going to be Trump. We all know that. But he did not take this office, and keep it, by virtue of his own lies alone. He had many accomplices along the way, including a range of journalists — local and national, in print and on the air — who too often did not hold him accountable.

Why we need strong newspaper editorials

This is where newspaper editorials come in. No one who has watched this president even a day in the past four years believes he will resign (at least not without some kind of personal benefit) and it certainly does not seem believable that he will ever do anything as noble and humble as concede.

But the purpose of an editorial is not necessarily to lasso a desired outcome. It’s to use your credibility, status and influence to draw a line of acceptable behavior. An editorial demanding that Trump concede and resign, with a splashy headline to share the world round, creates a new environment around the president and his actions. Were the Tribune, Sun-Times or any other major American newspaper to demand his concession and/or his resignation, that action gives cover to other papers to do the same. It gives cover to GOP politicians to do the same. It gives cover to business leaders to do the same.

I might expect less from our hometown papers had they endorsed him, but neither did in either 2016 or 2020. Both papers endorsed Joe Biden this year, while also arguing against Trump’s re-election. The Tribune did so rather meekly in my opinion — (“There is value in electing a president who does not insult, mock or demean. Our country can and must do better.”) — but the Sun-Times came out guns blazing, writing:

“It would be enough for us to argue here for a vote against Donald Trump. Our country can’t take any more of him. If the Democratic alternative were a sock puppet, we’d urge a vote for the sock puppet.”

Both boards have at least published editorials noting Biden’s victory, and the damage that Trump is creating in denying that. The Sun-Times went first, on Nov. 13, with a piece titled, “Every day Trump won’t get out of the way he puts our country in danger.” That was pretty close to a demand for him to concede, with the board writing, “President Donald Trump is throwing up every obstacle to a smooth transition to a Biden administration, in keeping with his refusal to accept that Biden won the Nov. 3 election, and the consequences of his petulance are more than politically unfortunate.”

Three days later, the Tribune board published one titled, “Trump’s baseless claims won’t change reality. He lost the election.” That editorial’s boldest statement is simply that the president lost, and that while he “doesn’t have to like the result … that won’t change the reality.”

These are clear words, but not strong ones. They are certainly not direct and potent enough to combat the president’s assault on our elections, an assault happening at this very moment in Wisconsin, our neighbor to the north, where a conservative group has filed a lawsuit in hopes that Wisconsin’s Republican-controlled legislature might defy the will of the people and instead cast the state’s 10 electoral votes in favor of President Trump. 

With this kind of outrageous battery against voters, neither the Sun-Times’ nor the Tribune’s editorials pack the blunt force of a headline reading, “Trump must concede and resign now.”

A plea to the editorial boards of the Tribune and Sun-Times

We once had that type of strength from our papers of record.

On August 7, 1974, the Tribune concluded its editorial about President Nixon (titled “The case is complete…”) with the following:

“Surely wiser heads in the White House will continue to urge Mr. Nixon to resign. … Getting the matter over with as quickly as possible must now be the first order of business — in the interest of the country and of Mr. Nixon himself.”

Nixon announced his resignation the next day, effective at noon on August 9.

On September 15, 1998, that board was even more direct about the not-yet-impeached President Clinton. Titled “The president’s last chance at honor,” this editorial was published four days after the release of the Starr Report, with the board admonishing him in clear, concise language.

“For now, however, the question before the nation is what to do about Bill Clinton, liar under oath, obstructor of justice — and president. Congress, uncharacteristically sober, is moving toward a decision on whether to conduct an impeachment inquiry.

“Clinton could make all that moot by electing to do the right thing, the honorable thing: Resign.”

Since the middle of the year, I have pushed the Tribune and Sun-Times — and their editorial board editors Kristen McQueary and Tom McNamee, respectively — to publish editorials demanding that Trump resign, and now, concede. I’ve done so via Twitter, email, and with McQueary, a voicemail to the Tribune office, with no response. Incredibly, the conservative Washington Examiner, once squarely in Trump’s corner (and he in its), beat both the Tribune and the Sun-Times to the “concede now” editorial punch.

I don’t believe that McQueary and McNamee, and the boards they lead, have any more or less responsibility to publish these editorials than any other major paper. I merely focus on them because they’re my hometown papers. My family subscribed to both growing up, and I’ve been published by both as an adult.

So my focus is here, in hopes that America can start a wave that will roll back the anti-Constitutional, anti-American insanity of a president claiming victory in an election he’s lost and pushing his supporters to believe that their franchise has been stolen from them, all while presiding over a pandemic he refuses to acknowledge as real even as it kills hundreds of thousands of his constituents. 

I want to see these editorials published by my papers, and no, I don’t care that he has less than two months remaining in office. Even at this late hour, I still want our mightiest institutions to hold Donald Trump to the standard of the presidency, rather than holding the presidency to the standard of Donald Trump.

Jack Silverstein is a Chicago journalist and historian. Here is his ongoing, two-year thread on this presidency.

Welcome to 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days, hosted by Portrait of an Adoption. This series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying adoption experiences and perspectives. 

What Will Life Look Like for Him at 21?
By Julie Cowan

Our son Kyle, who we adopted at birth, turned eighteen in February. While most eighteen-year-olds get ready to fly with independence, Kyle’s life ahead is one of uncertainty.

Recently, we had to go to court to establish guardianship, as Kyle will never be able to make decisions for himself. I wrote about his physical and cognitive impairments six years ago for this series. You can read about our adoption experience here.

In June he was graduated from a high school special-needs program. Now he has three years in a transition program ahead of him. Three years for us to decide what life for him will look like when he’s twenty-one, after the routine of school is done.

It might be shared housing with young adults his age, caregivers, and possibly a small job. What we know is that at fifty-six and fifty-eight, we can’t physically care for him forever. We’d be doing him a disservice to not provide him with daily social and peer contact.

Last year in school, he did some greeting at Trader Joe’s and was a big hit. With his smile, he got great feedback. He would hit a vocal switch for example, that said “welcome to Trader Joe’s, get your pumpkins $2.99.”

One woman said she planned her shopping trip when she knew he would be there, because she loved his smile so much. That melted my momma’s heart!

As has been the case for a number of years, both physically and emotionally, he is hard to take care of some days. Physically because he is 154 pounds now and wheelchair-bound, and he needs almost total care.

The hard part emotionally is that as he’s aged, the seizure medication or brain abnormality has caused him to scream more. It’s worse now with social distancing and online school. It’s difficult to hear the screams and it wears on us. We as parent caregivers continue with periodic counseling to help us handle the stress.

Along with him turning eighteen, it came time for the end of our legal agreement with his birth mother to send letters and pictures. She has had no contact with us since he was one year old.

Our letters and pictures were never returned from the post office box, so we assume she was still receiving them. Many times, I struggled with my fierce mother’s love “well if she doesn’t want to respond or know him screw her.”

My husband has always been more even-tempered and compassionate, and he wanted to maintain the connection, so I continued to send letters and pictures year after year, hoping they brought her some happiness. When he turned eighteen, I wrote her a final letter, letting her know it would be the last one she would receive unless we heard from her, asking for further communication.

I wrote to her about how there was one day when Kyle came home with an unsigned note in purple felt pen in his backpack. It said, “Kyle the world would be a better place if everyone was like you!”

I told her, “K, I’m sorry you chose not to know him, it has been a privilege to be his parents. He is a very special young man.” And so, there will be no future relationship for him with her. Something we’d hoped for so long ago with “open adoption” but didn’t happen.

Kyle is still handsome, funny, loves the Seahawks and Huskies and HGTV. He also obsesses about Taco Time, and he still adores his younger sister, Hayley.

We continue to experience a very positive open adoption with Hayley’s birth family. At fifteen, she texts and writes with her birth mom T and birth grandma and occasionally birth dad. Pre Covid, she spent time with them each summer the last few years.

She has enjoyed the opportunity to meet extended family. A year ago, she was able to meet her half birth sister, who is seven years younger than she is. They had a special couple of hours together.

So, when Hayley launches at eighteen, she will have had a solid start at maintaining those relationships with her birth family. We couldn’t be happier!  As we say, “more people to love her!”

Bio: Julie Cowan works as a nurse. She, Randy, Kyle and Hayley live in Bellevue.

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Sundae is an adorable, very active and skittish, six-month-old, male Abyssinian tri-color guinea pig looking for a loving guardian.

Sundae came to Friends of Petraits Rescue when his human went back to college and said she had no time for him. She had bought him and a brother at a pet store, but the brother died soon after their purchase.

So, we think he will enjoy the company of other guinea pigs. Even if he’s living in a home with another guinea pig in another cage, guinea pigs enjoy chatting with each other.

Guinea pigs eat a diet of unlimited Timothy and Orchard hays; a handful of guinea pig pellets, and fresh vegetables including romaine, red leaf and green leaf lettuces, cilantro, cucumbers, carrots, tomatoes, etc. Guinea pigs, similar to humans, can’t manufacture their own vitamin C, so they need to supplement their diet with red pepper and many other vitamin C-rich foods. He LOVES his fresh foods and pulls them under his little hidey hut to enjoy them in privacy.

Please read up on guinea pig care and diet before adopting by visiting this excellent web site http://www.guinealynx.info/

He would love a home with people who will handle him daily, keep him well fed, his nails trimmed, and keep his habitat nice and clean.

If you’re interested in possibly adopting Sundae, please fill out an adoption application at https://friendsofpetraits.com/guinea-pig-adoption-application/.

He is being fostered in Chicago’s Andersonville neighborhood.

His adoption fee of $35 benefits the Friends of Petraits Rescue. For an additional $75, we’ll include a package of absolutely everything you need to care for him including a large cage, pellets, hay, hidey hut and water bottle.

And, yes … Friends of Petraits is handling masked, minimum contact, socially distant adoptions.